I've been holding off this post today, because it's a very personal subject for me to chat about.
The professionals of mental health helped me through the difficult times, that I couldn't mention to anyone.
So, within 2013 (I guess that's when it started) I wasn't feeling all too 'happy'.
Things that ran through my mind were:
1. I'm unemployed
2. I'm a burden to people I know
3. I keep doing my (personal) work, and it's not 'going anywhere'
And so on.
I thought about them everyday, every week to every month. It kept running over, and over in my head.
It got too much where, I planned to kill myself, 3 months before my birthday...a wonder, right?
I just felt worthless and my health was getting to me at the time too, because I couldn't do the work that I wanted to do. I saw everything at its worse.
I cried every night.
Realising I was crying every night, made me worry and I questioned, 'is this normal?'.
I've had sadness, but not THAT great sadness. I couldn't take the (amount of) crying anymore.
So, I found the little courage I had left to try to go to the doctors.
Before going there, I always thought:
1. I'd be a problem to be helped
2. I didn't know the extent of (severe) depression to be classed as a mental illness.
I feared this.
However, I went, and explained my problem, it turns out they knew A LOT about it.
I was thankful.
There was questions, and after phone calls, visits to different places and counselling. Thankfully around my area.
Thankful again, I'm still here, doing a blog I'm getting into. Also, I've opened up to people more, which I'm super glad about.
It's a process to go through.
So, I would say to:
- take a chance and visit your doctor.
- use charities that help with mental health, they have helpful links, details and people to help you.
The Doctor + The Help
It's all through willpower. If it's in there, they'll bring it out with you and your agreement. Truthfully.
I said 'yes', obviously with concerns, depression talking. And I write this blog, to you, today.
Give it a chance and always feel free to tell them anything of your concern. It's to benefit you, to make sure they're help best suits you.
It sounds daunting every time.
I honestly can say I need help, as much as anyone who seeks it too.
I always have that problem, where I think that others need more help than myself. But it's myself that has to say, 'I need help, I have to seek it to help me'.
I'm stable at the moment. The days which are hard, are the days you have to master your own thoughts, and find your solutions.
There's always help, and I say that each and everyday.
If I need real big help, to the doctors I go.
Or you can share your thoughts, and 'like minded' people help you too.
If I need slight help and just want to chat, I use a mental health charity.
Some may say it's 'selfish' and 'stupid' to want to kill yourself.
I found out what they meant, and I watched something that explained it. I don't remember the show, but it's a case of the 'aftermath', and what it does to others.
Apart from this, I see the mental illness part. If there's no help, then when will there be help?
There's a two way thought through saying this to people, to doing something for people.
Otherwise, I finish by saying:
- I have a mental illness
- I suffer from severe depression
- I am happy I got the help I needed
- and the help, I'm so thankful for is still allowing me to live today
Please seek 'help' if you feel there's something unusual with your emotions, or any concerns in general.
"You never know unless try".