I don't know HOW to explain this, but, if you view yourself, in other peoples' situation, then maybe you'll get a feel of what they are going through.
So, all I am saying is, everything, everyone, have their reason for something. Whether we see behind their story, or "put yourself in their shoes", etc., then maybe we can see a different view to OTHERS' things.
I don't know. A little help, HELPS.